There’s something about New Years Eve that brings me inner peace. The fictional restart button I’m desperately searching for. The illusion of a new beginning. A chance to reinvent myself and make better decisions. There are people out there who scoff at new years resolutions but I am not one of them.
To master the art of a morning/night routine. I am far too inconsistent with any venture I take on. Whether it be working out, waking up at the same time each day, or how healthy I eat. Some days I do a ten-step skincare routine and other days I can’t bring myself to remove my makeup. Adults stick to routines!
wake up at 6 am each morning! even weekends!
pray 5 times a day
gratitude journal each day
go to the gym a minimum of 4 times a week (30 minutes of movement each day)
30 minutes of reading + writing each day
1 movie, book, and blog post a week!
Find yourself a side-hustle/passion project/hobby. There was a time I dabbled in everything under the sun; photography, etsy, cycling, food blogging, etc. Post-graduation I couldn’t handle the juggling act and went cold turkey on anything that brought my cortisol up. Now that I’ve had a few months to rest I’m ready to throw myself back into things. This is the time to pick up new skills - comedy? improv? spanish? art history? The world is my oyster and there is so much to learn! Don’t let graduating college sway you from learning new things.
To further myself professionally! I’ve been drowning these past few months trying to catch up. It’s time to button down and put my best foot forward each day. Also, to avoid workplace drama and gossip like the plague.
Freelance writing is something that has always intrigued me and I want to start this upcoming year… That or work on a book/television script. Monetize off your god-given talents, 2019 amiright. If anyone has any advice on this undertaking please hit me up.
Wean off social media. At this point we all know that it’s unhealthy and leads to unhappiness. I need to figure out what is attaching me to these apps and cut the cord.
I’ve decided to stop holding myself back from situations that terrify me. I spent a majority of 2018 avoiding my feelings and confrontation. I chose to follow logic rather than what my heart told me (ok Ariel) and it led to a lot of internal struggle. It’s worse to keep things in rather than being honest about how you feel. At least that way you don’t go to bed thinking about all the things that could have been. Your twenties are for letting loose, taking risks, and throwing yourself outside of your comfort zone. In 2019 we are FEARLESS.
To not use beauty as my currency. We are not all beautiful nor do we need to be. Do not let other girls dictate what your body is supposed to look like. I can’t handle another year of “You’ve disappeared! I need the stomach flu so I can lose ten pounds! Cough on me so I get sick!” Girls thinner than me exclaiming that they need to lose 10 pounds should not trigger me into believing I am inferior. That is their personal goal! I am happy!
To stand by this following quote:
“I made a decision early on that I would be a plain girl with tons of personality, and accepting it made everything a lot easier. If you are lucky, there is a moment in your life when you have some say as to what your currency is going to be. I decided early on it was not going to be my looks. I have spent a lifetime coming to terms with this idea and I would say I am about 15 to 20 percent there. Which I think is great progress. Decide what your currency is early. Let go of what you will never have. People who do this are happier and sexier.” - Amy Poehler
Your best friends are supposed to inspire you, light your fire, and guide you towards greatness. They should provide you value; emotional support, laughs, or a kick in the pants when you need it. STOP SPENDING TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT INSPIRE YOU. It is okay to want more out of the people you surround yourself with! If you are the smartest person in the room you need to leave the room! Abandon fake friends who treat relationships like power plays. We do not live in a monarchy. Feelings of community will trap you in a toxic circle you had no intention of joining There are not enough hours in a day to waste on people who don’t intellectually stimulate you or make you laugh. Making an effort for “old times sake” is purely a waste of time. Prioritize those who matter.
There is a difference between people who enjoy your company when you’re cracking jokes in large social settings and trusted confidants who have your back. Do not confuse the two. They did not sign up for the whole enchilada. The sometimes depressed enchilada. When you’re a multidimensional human being you cannot expect one person to fulfill each part of you. You have a variety of friends who bring out different parts of you and that is the way it should be. Also, if someone cares about you they will show it. In 2019 we do not beg people to give a crap about us. It’s hard when people don’t match your enthusiasm but you deserve better!
Do not let the constant instagram engagements accelerate the path you are on. You are very young and everyone is on their own journey. Do not let the societal pressure to get engaged early steal your youth away. There is nothing wrong with you because you don’t have a ring on your finger. Contrary to what Drake says.. the good ones do not go if you wait too long.. or at least I would hope so.
I know exactly the type of person I want to end up with in the end. I also know that I have not met him yet. I’ll often convince myself that I love some average side-friend of mine and put myself through the emotional ringer for no reason. The fear of ending up alone clouds my judgement. Being single was the best thing that could have ever happened to me in college, yet I spent a majority of that time sad about it. It’s time I embraced being single and allowed things to fall into place naturally.
Life is composed of chapters and seasons. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. Do not desperately cling to the way things used to be. Enough with the old photos and videos! Do not live in the past! It’s not healthy!
You can always be more - kinder, softer, more patient. Work on your faults and become a better person.